How to become more miserable than you already are

November 18, 2013 Jason 1 comment

There is a delightfully sardonic article on misery and how to nurture it circulating on the internet. It touches on the secondary gain miserable people get – yes, there are benefits to acting dour – and why some of us exhibit defensive pessimism. There are also some useful observations about manipulative personalities. I happen to believe that they are more common than we think. So learn to spot them, if only to guard ourselves against being dragged down.

This looks like an article mocking the skeptics who have laughed off the not-quite-mainstream psychology of optimism that I see catching on in the western world, and in some parts of Asia. The funniest bits are the exercises that mimic those which positive psychologists prescribe to nurture optimistic thinking and wellbeing. Except these ones promote misery, of course.

Take the insights with a pinch of salt. No, actually, take them seriously, because there is extensive research showing that venting rage or exercising off frustration do nothing to improve our emotional wellbeing. If all this is just fuzzy logic to you, carry on beating yourself up. But excuse me while I head out for some sunshine and fresh air.

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1 Comment on “How to become more miserable than you already are

  1. A side benefit of being bored is that you inevitably become boring. Friends and relatives will avoid you. You won’t be invited anywhere; nobody will want to call you, much less actually see you. As this happens, you’ll feel lonely and even more bored and miserable.

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